tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3104712673909819244.post664350548023634063..comments2024-01-09T23:37:31.525-08:00Comments on Beautygirl24: Real Talk: Holiday BluesBeautygirl24http://www.blogger.com/profile/16333427134036573516noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3104712673909819244.post-37108614765455287352016-12-14T11:17:51.870-08:002016-12-14T11:17:51.870-08:00For as full of love and joy that the holidays are ...For as full of love and joy that the holidays are supposed to be, there are always equal parts stress and depression. I wish I knew how to make it be different. On Thanksgiving I was home with my parents and it was just the two of them and my sister and I. My dad threw a fit because we put marshmallows on the sweet potatoes (we're Italian and this is foreign to us) and basically my mom, sister and I all wanted to walk out, abandon the dinner we'd spent the last two days making and just get away from the negativity. We didn't, and no one spoke to my dad for the rest of the night, meanwhile he kept telling the dog how dry the turkey was (which it wasn't). Anyway, the point of my story is, I'm with you. The holidays aren't about a perfect gift or a perfect meal, they are about family and love and being grateful for all we have in life. <br />http://www.iamchiconthecheap.com/LyddieGalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01604790644999494872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3104712673909819244.post-5842241566244951312016-12-14T04:15:07.560-08:002016-12-14T04:15:07.560-08:00Thanks for sharing! I definitely think the holiday... Thanks for sharing! I definitely think the holidays can be hard for a whole host of reasons. I like knowing more about you and understanding what it's like for you. I'm sorry, and I do hope once you all have a family it will feel different. I have a wonderful immediate family, and they are still stressful sometimes. I like your reminders at the end to.<br />Amy Ann<br /><a href="http://www.straightastyleblog.com/" rel="nofollow">Straight A Style</a><br /> Straight A Stylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07379025619218337214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3104712673909819244.post-54247002168570201382016-12-08T08:56:22.411-08:002016-12-08T08:56:22.411-08:00I think there are many who appreciate you being op...I think there are many who appreciate you being open about the fact that the holidays are difficult for some. Personally the time change and the getting dark sooooo early is extremely hard on me. I struggle with anxiety and the whole pressure to shop and the crowds really causes me to fall back into not wanting to leave the house mode. I will say I am blessed with 3 kiddos and for me their excitement helps keep things in perspective. We did more decorating this year and to see their faces light up helps ease the suffocating anxiety I feel at times. We make a point to help other families anonymously, be kind and hold doors for strangers and pay for people behind us in the drive-thru etc... We make an effort to do this year around but especially at Christmas time because there are so many hurting people in this world and showing love goes such a long way in not only helping other people but helping yourself. I think you are very brave and strong by just admitting your feelings and it sounds like you have a great support system. Merry Christmas and Holiday blessings to you and your family!! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04726393294340490303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3104712673909819244.post-90780154984911206452016-12-08T08:53:26.379-08:002016-12-08T08:53:26.379-08:00Thank you for this post Noelle. I love your real t...Thank you for this post Noelle. I love your real talk series very much and wish more bloggers shared something deeper in their blogs.<br /><br />I understand the holiday blues and used to suffer from them too. I have a sister who is always at odds with the family. She's suffering from NPD (she doesn't want to get help though) so the holidays were tough as we never knew if she wanted to spend it with the rest of us. But since I had Sofia, the holiday blues went away as my family of 3 became my main family with the addition of a child :) Christmas is a magical time seeing it through her eyes...<br /><br />My husband and I host a Christmas brunch every year and invite all of our friends that don't have family in town and are unable to travel. We'be been hosting it for 9 years now. It's good to spend time with family but also remembering those who may have a tough time for that exact same reason. I also have a friend who lost a sibling to suicide on Christmas Eve. I make sure to reach out to her more this time of the year. <br /><br />I like the list you have about kindness to everyone this time of the year. What I'd like to add to that is being generally more giving. Hubby and I can afford to buy each other really exoensive presents. But we don't (we only buy gifts for Sofia) and instead spend the money on necessities for homeless families. This year we supported a refugee family. Giving to those who need it more puts me in a higher spirit. I'm an atheist so I don't believe in Christmas being about Christ, but I believe it's about being gracious, generous and kind.<br /><br />Hope you have a Merry Christmas :)Shadowy Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08170268219457214588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3104712673909819244.post-14384500173845992342016-12-08T07:51:53.435-08:002016-12-08T07:51:53.435-08:00I can totally relate to all of this. The little gi...I can totally relate to all of this. The little girl in me comes out every Christmas wishing things could be the way they used to be. I try to stay positive and use all my self care tools but the reality is it makes me very sad I will probably never get to spend another Christmas with my mom and sister. My three best girlfriends are all married with young children and extended families of their own so it definitely gets lonely at times. Not throwing a pity party over here ( well, maybe a little bit) it is just the reality of my situation. I hear you. Kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05705153145268593852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3104712673909819244.post-35746353570894494692016-12-08T07:42:28.619-08:002016-12-08T07:42:28.619-08:00I think it's brave of you to be so open- yes, ...I think it's brave of you to be so open- yes, the holidays are a fun time for many, but they're a struggle for others. I think it's lovely that Nate's family is there for you- and whether you end up shaking off the holiday blues eventually or not, you're loved! :) <br /><br />-Ashley<br /><a href="http://lestylorouge.com/" rel="nofollow">Le Stylo Rouge</a> awhitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03931401750884199529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3104712673909819244.post-61876278191435811542016-12-08T05:06:28.713-08:002016-12-08T05:06:28.713-08:00Hm, well..I don't want to discourage you but f...Hm, well..I don't want to discourage you but for me, having kids doesn't do a lot for the holiday blues. You might be different but there are no guarantees (as you already know!). I don't want to get to mopey in the comment box but you're not alone in the holiday blues. I'll just leave it at that. :)<br />Gina || <a href="http://onthedailyexpress.com" rel="nofollow">On the Daily Express</a>Gina Dailyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16883299882138487172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3104712673909819244.post-87682220535819878812016-12-08T02:47:37.534-08:002016-12-08T02:47:37.534-08:00I prefer Summer too, yea the Holiday is not the be...I prefer Summer too, yea the Holiday is not the best time of the year for me but it doesn't last long so I try my best to just push through. This year my mom will be here so that will make it better. I usually just try to keep busy and work on a project :) Lovely outfit too.<br /><br />xo<br /><a href="http://pinksole.com" rel="nofollow">Pinksole</a><br />Rachelle Pinksolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01054498447980470373noreply@blogger.com