Building a classic wardrobe

As I get older, I approach style very differently than I used to. I used to dress mostly to please others, and to convey an image of who I wanted to be. Now that I'm in my thirties, I dress mostly to please myself, and to convey an image of who I am presently. In other words, what you see is what you get. And that makes getting dressed everyday so much more enjoyable.

Whatever your style may be, there are certain classic pieces that look amazing on everyone and are sure to save you time and effort. Consider them the building blocks of a practical, thoughtful, and yes even chic wardrobe. 

Wearing // Old Navy jeans, Similar striped shirt, Similar soft trench coat, Sam Edelman flats, Similar bag, Gorjana sunburst coin necklace

Beauty // Oribe anti-humidity spray

Key Pieces For Building A Classic Wardrobe

Neutral-colored soft trench coat: A soft trench coat is obviously less structured than a traditional trench coat, but it still looks just as polished. The one I'm wearing is a few years old from Macy's, but brands like Express and Asos have had versions every year. I find the draping of these coats extremely flattering.

Stripe t-shirt or top: Who doesn't own at least one striped top? Put it to use as often as possible!

Perfectly lived-in denim: There's nothing like your favorite pair of perfectly soft, slouchy, lived-in jeans. It doesn't matter the brand, as long as they fit like a glove. These are my most-worn pair of Old Navy rockstar jeans, and I wear them weekly. The lighter wash and (very slight) distressing make for an instant classic pair.

Red bag: Red is such a power color, and a great leather crossbody bag can take you from day to night and from the office to happy hour. It really adds instant polish to any look.

Pointy-toe flats: Not everyone likes flats, and not everybody finds them comfortable, but I've been a pointy-toe flats girl since Stacy London championed them on "What Not To Wear" about a decade ago. They're great for lengthening your legs when you're not into heels.

Wear all of these pieces together, add a current trend to break up the look, or mix them in with your other wardrobe favorites. Classic doesn't have to = boring!


I hope you had a great weekend! Linking up with Pink Sole

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Belted Cardigan

If there's one item that I've been absolutely living in lately, it's this plush-knit cardigan. I've had it for awhile, and even wore it on the blog over my favorite fitted dress. Now that it's Winter and layering is a must, I reach for it weekly. What I love about cardigans is that they are universally flattering on every body type, they can be worn both to the office or while lounging, and they are just so simple to style. I personally favor longer, open cardigans with a looser fit but...these can also drown out my figure i.e. my waist. This is where a belt comes in.

Wearing// Exact cardigan, Exact jeans, Exact belt, Exact necklace

I had completely forgotten what a great styling tool a belt can be, particularly if you have a curvy lower body. In order to accentuate those curves I added a wrap-style leather belt, and cinched it in at the smallest part of my natural waist. Styling note: I think in order for this to work best, an oversized cardigan is key. It gives my denim outfit some dimension and interest, and the effect makes me feel so feminine. Do you ladies wear belts frequently? I hope I've convinced you to give this style strategy a try!


Just a quick life update: our dog went into surgery on Monday and although she's uncomfortable and in some pain, she's recovering just fine. It's her second ACL surgery and I'm amazed by her toughness and strength. I could learn from that.

Monday also happened to be my friend Gina's birthday, and I had such a great time celebrating her over the weekend along with our husbands. We always have fun on our date nights. Gina and I blab about clothes and blogging, while the guys blab about pretty much everything else!

Linking up with Gina & Amy Ann  & The Blended Blog

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Looking Back on 2018

Happy New Year! I'm not sure why it's taken me so long to write my first post of 2019 but I'm back today with a little reflection on the year that was. I almost jumped right into discussing my intentions for 2019, but I always like to wrap up the last year here so I can get some closure and move forward.

2018 was actually a good year for me. I was able to curtail my spending, I enjoyed more time outdoors, I made my health a priority, and I took a fun trip to Mexico with my best friend. But in the interest of being completely honest and transparent with you guys, it was also very inconsistent. Meaning, I was very inconsistent. I think I made some headway in managing my anxiety and depression, but it was more of me just pasting a smile on my face and trying to will myself into contentment. In reality, I spent a lot of time ruminating and I went back and forth from being social and having a full calendar to feeling utterly alone and isolated. As usual, I did it to myself. I'd have weeks where I felt great, and then my mood would completely shift and I'd have weeks where I wouldn't even want to leave the house. I would tackle a goal, but then retreat and feel like a total failure. I did this in so many areas of my life. Exercise, school, even blogging.

 If I could sum up 2018 in one word (as is the popular thing to do right now), inconsistent would be my word...

Sometimes, positive thinking can actually do more harm than good if you're not addressing an issue. Because although my attitude in general was much more positive in 2018, there were still negative thoughts brewing underneath the happy platitudes, and really I just tried to conceal them rather than overcome them. Fake it til you make it! It sounds great and all, but after awhile I just felt like I was faking everything. It became exhausting at times, and that's when I would withdraw. There were events I missed, appointments I canceled. I blogged less and tried my best to disconnect from social media. I sometimes wondered if I should stop blogging altogether, but I've always enjoyed it and I think I'd feel a void if I quit. So I'm still here! 

Wearing // Spanx faux leather leggings, Similar cardigan, Steve Madden shoes on sale, Gorjana necklace and rings

I'll discuss my outlook on 2019 in my next post, but I don't have ANY expectations as of now. The best parts of last year came from unexpected plans, spontaneous little adventures, and spending quality time with the people (and four-legged friends) that I love and I just want to continue to do more of that. 

Charnele, Caryl, Gina, Rachelle

Seeing these beautiful ladies over the holidays was most definitely a highlight of 2018. I wish we all lived closer so we could get together more often! We all met for dinner at Rustic Root in downtown San Diego and then went to a bar across the street. How fabulous do they look?!

So tell me, if you could sum up your 2018 in a word or phrase...what would yours be?

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Shine On In Sequins

Christmas is over and the countdown to New Years has begun! I hope everyone who celebrated enjoyed some quality time with loved ones. Nate has had a few days off so I haven't really been in the mood for sitting down to blog on my computer...My friend Rachelle decided to take the entire month of December off from blogging and I think that's the way to go! Oh, and more about Rachelle and meeting up with our other blogging friends soon!

But for now, let's talk about sequins. They are ubiquitous during the holidays and for good reason. You can go all out in a sequin skirt or dress, or you can do what I've done here and dress them down a bit.

Wearing // Old Shop Tobi sweater, Old Zara sequins skirt, Ted Baker bag, Sam Edelman flats, Gorjana rings

Honestly this has been my favorite holiday outfit I've worn in years. For any of my longtime readers, do you guys remember this gold sequin skirt? I think I've had it for about 6 or 7 years! Maybe longer because it was way before I got married. I bought it during a big Zara sale and wore the heck out of it. Somehow, miraculously, it has survived countless closet clean-outs. Recently I saw Helena from Brooklyn Blonde wearing an oversized sweater with a sequin mini, and it inspired me once again to bring on the shine for a nice dinner out. It would obviously be perfect for New Years Eve, although we don't have any plans yet so you might just find me in PJ's instead! Either way, it feels great to get reacquainted with an older item of clothing. It's like visiting with an old friend.

Are you into sequins for the holidays?

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Casual Holiday Outfit

On Saturday, I co-hosted a Christmas party with my best friend at her apartment in San Diego. We wanted it to be fairly casual but also festive! When we arrived at their place, her husband surprised us by dressing up as Santa. She went all out with tons of shimmering lights, candles, a beautiful tree, and a naughty elf that kept sneaking up to her bar cart every few minutes. We exchanged white elephant gifts and laughed the night away. Honestly it was so much fun. The holidays can be pretty hard on us emotionally. We both get the holiday blues for different reasons...but celebrating together helps. I'm hoping it can become a tradition, something to really look forward to each year.

Wearing // Old Navy jacket, Leith dress, Franco Sarto ankle boots, Nordstrom scarf

Beauty // Everything from this post

In planning my outfit, I knew we were going to be inside most of the time so I just wanted to be comfortable yet also look put-together. I guess that's always my style philosophy! I love this Leith dress so much in gray that I had to have it in black as well. I threw on my burgundy jacket, a little leopard, and I was good to go. 

Have you gone to any parties yet this season? What did you wear?! 

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Hey ladies, happy December! The holiday season is in full swing and I can't believe the year is nearly over!

I spent most of the weekend getting decorations out but amidst all the running around town, I was able to put an outfit to the test. These Spanx faux leather leggings are completely out of my comfort zone. In fact, leggings in general have been somewhat of a mystery to me. Yes they are much more comfortable than wearing regular pants or jeans, but unless I'm going to the gym or lounging around the house, I've never really considered them a suitable option for me. You guys know by now that I'm a pretty modest dresser, and I like to leave most everything to the imagination! Basically, I don't like wearing leggings as pants, and that leaves me feeling a bit limited in the styling department. But hey, you only live once and fashion should be fun so I plopped down the cash during Black Friday and ordered my own pair to try...I have some thoughts...

1. They make your rear look lifted, and we could all use that! Most of mine was covered by the tunic, but I felt confident nonetheless.

2. The waistband comes up pretty high on my stomach, which means it sucks everything in. There's enough stretch that it doesn't feel too tight or uncomfortable though, just very smooth and forgiving.

3. I wish these came in shorter lengths, because they are incredibly long on my 5'2 frame. They tucked into my new suede ankle boots nicely at first, but as you can see, that didn't last! I think I'll try them with taller boots or even flats next time.

4. I don't mind that they are long because they fit fabulously everywhere else. I did go up one size for reference.

5. They look like leather, but they definitely don't feel like leather. I consider that a plus.

Spanx Faux Leather Leggings

Wearing // Spanx faux leather leggings, Lush top, Franco Sarto ankle boots, Gorjana necklace

Beauty // M.A.C. powder kiss lipstick in "Burning Love"

Do you like wearing leggings? What's your favorite way to style them? I'd love some more ideas!

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How I Spent Thanksgiving + Burgundy Moto Jacket

I hope everyone had a relaxing holiday weekend! How did yours go?

We went camping by the beach for four days and it was pure bliss. Nate's family was out of town so we postponed our gathering. Instead of turkey, cranberry sauce and stuffing, we had In-n-Out! I must've gained five pounds with all the burgers and Mexican food we indulged in, and yet round two is this Saturday so I'm reeling myself in until then!

Anyway, it was probably the best non-traditional Thanksgiving I've ever had. Waking up to the sun shining on the water and listening to the waves crashing while drinking my morning coffee and walking the dog - as I said, PURE BLISS. We seriously have dreams about selling all of our stuff and living out of an RV for a year. I know that sounds a little crazy, especially for a girl who loves clothes but I swear some days that's all I want!

Speaking of clothes, I hope you guys aren't tired of seeing my growing moto jacket collection. I can't stop reaching for them, usually when I don't know what else to wear. In my defense, Nate does work in the motorsports field so I'd like to think I'm just doing my part to represent 😉

Wearing // Old Navy moto jacket, Wit & Wisdom jeans , Zara pumps & cami (old), Sezane bag (unavailable), Gorjana coin necklace

But do you want to know the best part of camping during the holidays? No stress! Instead of pushing sales on social media (or being tempted by them myself) I instead focused on my family. 

*I did do some online shopping, but I stuck to a list I made earlier in the month and now I'm just waiting for my packages to arrive. I ordered a pair of toffee colored ankle boots, an olive sweater dress, and those faux leather Spanx leggings that everyone has. They didn't work for my best friend (I won't repeat what she said since I make it a point not to use that language on this blog), but I'm giving them a go! If everything fits nicely, you'll see them here very soon*

Did you do any holiday sale shopping this year, or are you tired of it already?! 

Linking up with On The Daily Express & Straight A Style 

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Cozy Knits To Live In

Happy Tuesday! I hope you enjoyed the long weekend in honor of our veterans. It was a fairly quiet one for us, although we did have the pleasure of attending a beautiful wedding on Saturday.

It's been incredibly windy and dry which undoubtedly is making the California wildfires worse. It's absolutely heartbreaking. My dad and grandmother live near Thousand Oaks, but thankfully they are alright and their homes are not threatened.

It's always difficult for me to blog about clothes when there are so many serious issues facing people, so I'll keep things brief. I'm still all about the basics, and both my cardigan and dress are must-haves. They are the perfect soft, cozy knits that I'll live in for the rest of the year and well into Winter.

Wearing // Leith ruched dress on sale, Old Navy longline cardigan on sale, Ted Baker bag, Gorjana starburst coin necklace

Beauty // Lipstick in MAC Powder Kiss "Burning Love" 

You'll probably recognize this Leith dress, as I've worn it on the blog before. It has a good amount of stretch, looks flattering against my curves, is fantastic for layering, and comes in several colors. I'm contemplating getting another one in black...it's hard to resist! As a rule, I try not to buy items in multiple colors anymore but I've got to admit that this dress is very tempting because of how versatile it is! Go up one size in case you are interested. I'm a pretty standard medium across the board, but I had to get a large in this and the fit is perfect. 

The Old Navy cardigan is a recent buy from one of their never-ending sales. I don't know how people keep up with them! It's also very soft and layers well over dresses. All I need is a pair of ankle boots and I've got my Thanksgiving outfit covered. 

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Taking My Spring Midi Dress Into Fall

I've loved midi dresses since I was a kid, and I'm pretty sure that watching reruns of I Love Lucy are mostly to blame. I started wearing midi skirts and dresses a few years ago when they became trendy again, and I still can't let them go. Midi dresses are so feminine, and they can also be surprisingly comfortable. I love being able to move around freely in a midi length while still looking polished. 

After seeing this dress on Lilly last Spring, I immediately bought it and have worn it countless times since. Dinners, a family gathering, and more recently on the plane ride to Mexico! Hey, the elastic waist makes it feel like I'm wearing sweatpants. 

Wearing // Older Ann Taylor midi dress, Old Navy moto jacket, Sam Edelman flats, Chelsea28 white bag, cool option here & here

Beauty // Charlotte Tilbury Pillow Talk lip liner all over lips 

In order to bring the dress into Fall, I simply added the moto jacket I raved about in my last post. Camel and blush pink look beautiful, and I decided to tie them together with white accessories (which are still very much on trend for Fall and Winter). Who says you can't wear white after Labor Day? For that matter, who says you can't bring your warm weather favorites into the colder months? I've really been on a mission this year to get the most use out of different pieces in my closet and although I struggle with it at times, I think I've done well overall. I'm much happier dressing (and blogging!) this way and I hope I'm giving you some ideas! 

Midi dress styling option seen here

Linking up with Rachelle today

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The Best Jacket For Fall

I said a couple weeks ago that I would be saving my moto jackets for cooler weather. Well, let's just say I couldn't resist wearing this one. It's THE BEST jacket for Fall and there are a few reasons why...

Wearing // Old Navy jacket. Similar Loft skirt, Target tank, Ted Baker bag, Similar pumps,

Ring Crush rings, Stella & Dot necklace

Beauty // Charlotte Tilbury hollywood flawless filter mixed with Make Up For Ever foundation

First. I just love the look of a moto jacket to pull together an outfit. It feels a bit younger and edgier than your typical cozy cardigan, and I think one transitions easily from day to night. Great for a date!

Second, this moto jacket in particular is a nice weight for in-between weather. It's not true suede, so it's much less heavier than the real thing. I have one from BlankNYC and although I absolutely adore the fit and color, it's quite substantial so it's been designated as my Winter coat. The one I'm wearing here is much more versatile.  

And third, this moto jacket comes in several beautiful colors. I love them so much that I grabbed one in burgundy as well.  For reference, I sized down one size. My jacket collection is small but useful. I can pull any of them out and each one goes with everything from dresses to denim. 

Are you as into moto jackets as I am?! Linking up with Pink Sole today.

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Fall Basics: Olive Twill Jacket & Leopard Flats

Hey ladies, happy Tuesday. I hope you are enjoying your week so far! I'm back with a casual outfit that's perfect for cool Fall days. Our weather is still fluctuating quite a bit but that's typical here - my safest bet is layering so I can adjust when I need to throughout the day.

Wearing // Similar jacket, Target tank, Wit & Wisdom jeans, Target flats, Sezane bag similar here, Ettika coin necklace

I bought this jacket from Express over the Summer when Gina featured it on her blog, and I'm so glad that I grabbed it while I could! This style is so practical for everyday wear, and it can easily be dressed down like I've done here or dressed up. In fact, I love wearing it over a little black dress and ankle boots for a night out with Nate. My exact jacket seems to be sold out, but I've seen similar jackets at Old Navy, Gap, and Target. 

Speaking of Target, I have to say that I'm really impressed with their a new day line. They make such great basics, like the tank top I have on here. I love it so much that I also bought a striped version. They have the perfect amount of stretch, are a thicker weight so they suck you in, and are incredibly comfortable and flattering. I'm wearing my usual size medium and they are true to size. I highly recommend them if you need to replenish any basics in your wardrobe. Also, the leopard flats were an impulse buy after seeing them on another blogger. They are also by a new day and are a great way to incorporate leopard into an outfit if you're a little shy like me. 

After seeing mine, what are your favorite Fall basics? 

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Casual Plaid Blazer & Cecelia Designs Jewelry

  The jewelry featured in this post was gifted to me by Cecelia Designs. 

Wearing // Similar H&M blazer here & here with a cute tie, Wit & Wisdom jeans, Steve Madden shoes, Ted Baker bag, Cecelia Designs Jewelry earrings & bracelet

One of the best parts about Fall dressing are the rich colors, patterns, and textures. While I love the flowy bohemian vibe of Summer, Fall immediately makes me reach for more structured, classic pieces. It's around this time every year that I wish I could travel to New York City, set up shop at a cafe where I can happily people-watch, and revel in all the inspiration whisking by. Living on the west coast, there are just certain truths; mainly, it doesn't ever get that cold. And that's okay. There are some simple ways of participating in all the Fall fashion while still looking appropriate in a warmer area like California.

First, never underestimate the power of a good layering piece. Plaid blazers are huge this year, and they're a fun way to dress up an otherwise basic outfit. I got this one over the Spring from H&M, and they have a ton of options! I was just in there the other day and plaid was everywhere. This one is nice because it has the fit and feel of a cardigan, while still giving the illusion of a blazer.

Second, shoes make all the difference. I mean, enough said.

And third, use jewelry to create interest and go for pieces that really speak to you! I've become much more selective about jewelry in the last two years. Maybe it's because as a Stella & Dot stylist, I initially made the mistake of collecting too many things (I don't anymore). Maybe it's the wave of delicate everyday pieces that are so trendy right now. Or, maybe it's because I've matured and honed in on what I truly love to wear. Whatever the reason, I'm picky. I will not wear anything that's uncomfortable or heavy. When Ceceila Designs sent over a pair of their light-as-air leather earrings and stretch beaded wrap bracelet, I knew I would wear them repeatedly! I enjoy supporting small businesses headed by women with a vision. Cecelia Designs is based in Minnesota, and for every piece sold, one tree is planted in their community. You can't go wrong!

I hope you'll take a look at their site and find something you like! I love their white and gold splatter leather earrings and plan on purchasing my own pair next. 

So far, what trends are you loving this season?

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